How to Overcome Loneliness
One reason many people are afraid to lie flat is the challenge of social connection.
I. Loneliness Cannot Be Resolved Through Socializing
When it comes to socializing, first look at your own inner core: is it mature, steady, and full of light? People whose inner core is immature and clouded can only attract others whose inner core is also immature. Their unresolved issues become entangled. This only deepens loneliness. Entering a romantic relationship out of loneliness will only leave you lonelier and exact a greater price.
II. Loneliness Is a Question of Existential Philosophy
“An Overview of My Marx + Zhuangzi + Psychology Framework” is grounded in a “sense of connection,” drawing on Marx, Zhuangzi, and psychology to connect oneself (consciousness and the ego)—one’s inner core (libido and innate wholeness)—nature—other people—working people at the bottom of society—society—history—the world—the universe.
That profound sense of connection is the equalizing of all things, the feeling of unity between heaven and humanity. Great illumination, freedom from self and form, tranquility of the id. Then you will no longer be lonely.
Only by drawing on Marx and Zhuangzi to reexamine your worldview, outlook on life, and values, and to heal your inner core, can you truly attract kindred spirits who resonate with you at a high frequency. “Zhuangzi: Benefiting Others Through Stillness”
III. More Specifically:
- Connect with yourself, understand yourself, be yourself, and love yourself. See the earlier article “How Ordinary People Can Experience Innate Wholeness.”
- Connect with the present, and practice living in the present. “Presence and Ease Are the Answer to Existential Crisis”
- Connect with others. “Being Selective in Social Relationships” and “Social Relationships: The Differences Between Comrades, Kindred Spirits, Close Friends, and Friends”
- Connect with ordinary people: “How Ordinary People Can Connect with the Simple, Genuine Goodness and Beauty of Working People at the Bottom of Society,” “I Saw Order and Civility at a County-Town Stadium,” “Chinese Internet Users and the Chinese People Are Different Groups and Classes,” “Petty-Bourgeois Malaise,” and “The Small-Town Test-Taking Ace Malaise”
- Connect with nature: “Zhuangzi and Nature Heal Existential Crisis,” “Looking Back on My Journey of Leaving and Returning to Nature at 35,” and “Zhuangzi’s Perfect Happiness: Watching Clouds at Dusk, Returning Home with My Child in My Arms”
- Connect with society and history: “Most Personal Problems Are Problems of Society and Humanity” and “Striving Is a False Concept.” It is very important to see heaven and earth and to see all living beings. Seeing that everyone suffers can help you step outside your ego and feel greater empathy for yourself. “Gratitude for My Past Self, Gratitude for My Present Self” and “Online Group Therapy: An Online Gathering for Ordinary People and Workers to Share Their Troubles”
- Connect with history: “It Is Not Hard to Calmly Accept Your Own Failures; Calmly Accept a Historical Low Point,” “Marx + Zhuangzi: Marxism from the Bottom Up,” and “A Small-Town Test-Taking Ace Goes from an Impoverished Village to Beijing’s Elite: Is This Defying Fate and Changing One’s Destiny?” Connect with the great figures and people of noble ideals in the history of Marxism. “Marx and Lenin: Stories of Good People”
- Connect with the universe: “We Are Children of the Universe” and “Zhuangzi: I Will Die an Ordinary Death”